15.5. The Science of Happiness: Arthur Brooks Part 1
A chance encounter that shaped Arthur’s perspective
Arthur Brooks is a social scientist, professor at Harvard University, a columnist for The Atlantic, and the bestselling author of From Strength to Strength. Here, Arthur explains how intelligence changes as we get older, and how to take advantage of this to maximize our happiness and success. He distills truths about the meaning of happiness and its three main components: enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose. He goes into detail about many of the keys to a happy life, including the importance of cultivating virtuous relationships. On the flip side, Arthur warns of the dangers of social comparison, “success addition,” and the four worldly idols—money, fame, power, and pleasure—that drive many of us. Additionally, Arthur provides examples of exercises that can guide one in the right direction, overcome fear, and cultivate habits that can lead to a happier life.
The three main macronutrients of happiness
Exploring the “purpose” component of happiness
The importance of having a partner and true friendships
The makeup of a true friendship, and why men tend to struggle with making real friends
The “satisfaction” component of happiness and the importance of “wants management”
The tyranny of social comparison
Insights into happiness through Chinese art, and the concept of a “reverse bucket list”
An exercise demonstrating the importance of relationships with others and the need to work on them
The four main idols that drive us: money, fame, power, and pleasure
Success addiction, workaholism, and their detriment to happiness
A radical approach to overcome fear the antithesis to love and happiness
Ancient Hindu advice for the perfect life
The end result of getting caught in the four idols
The complexity of happiness